Twenty years ago my first job out of college was coaching boy’s basketball. Playing basketball and learning to teach and develop others to play basketball are two distinct skill sets. I was eager to coach and was overwhelmed with how to get teen boys moving in the same direction. I spent time around the other…
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I got a new journal last year in April that was green and I distinctly remember telling my family that the journal was a symbol of flourishing in the days to come. At the time, I did not know that one of the hardest seasons of my life was ahead of me. I had to…
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If you have spent more than one day in any leadership role you have learned to protect, guard, and armor up against perceived attacks. In fact, this does not apply to leadership roles it is a survival mechanism we all have learned from our formative years as children. All leadership pain comes from relational hurt,…
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In the world of coaching, there’s often a quest for the perfect question—the one that unlocks insights, initiates change, and propels growth. Years ago as an aspiring coach, I too found myself trapped in this pursuit, aiming to craft the ideal query for every situation. However, this relentless pursuit of the “perfect question” led me…
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Our family enjoys immersing ourselves in nature through walks, hikes, and strolls in local parks. One of our favorite hikes, within a reasonable drive, is located north of Whitesboro on what the locals refer to as 377. While not particularly difficult, this hike is quite lengthy. It spans 14.2 miles around Lake Texoma, known as…
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Life has a bent towards wearing us thin, sapping our vitality, and leaving us drained and weary. When exhaustion sets in, what steps do we take? The hunger for love and genuine living often differs from reality. The discipline to train our minds, bodies, and souls for growth seems overshadowed by the ceaseless chase for…
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Grief has become a great mentor since my father died nine months ago. The lessons, stories, and reflections have allowed me to reflect in greater detail about what I want my life to look like. I recently shared with my wife on the couch one night about how I envision life when I am a…
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It never ends. Stepping over toys. Stepping on toys. Asking them to clean up toys. How do you teach children (your team) to take care of their toys? This is my current strategy. “You have two choices. You can clean up what I have asked you to clean or you can leave them and lose…
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We all desire transformation, but few rarely experience a deep level of leadership transformation. It’s the primary reason Jesus expressed that it is easy to clean the outside of the cup than to face deep internal changes (Matthew 23:24-26). No matter what you are leading the future belongs to those willing to choose to be…
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The power of your life’s story and your potential leadership is found in the hidden places where you take center stage and pull back the curtain. The willingness to be seen. I asked a client this week, “Tell me, how are you brave?” In the context of our coaching conversation, he began to share a…
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I am writing this from a limited view of what it means to be a husband who desires a thriving marriage. You don’t fix your wife. It really is that simple. She is not a problem to be solved, she is a beauty to be pursued. Here are three things that could be helpful to…
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