I have been walking alongside a Chief of Staff in their first year in their role and we are crafting a 90-day plan to gather feedback from his colleagues, board, peers, and the CEO. The role of a Chief of Staff is dynamic, complicated, and energizing. The Chief of Staff is a high-capacity leader entrusted…
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The pain of being let go from a job cuts deep. Especially when it is not related to a moral failure or job performance but instead connected to differences in beliefs or not a good cultural fit with the team or larger organization. I know in my own story how the little t trauma of…
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Life has a bent towards wearing us thin, sapping our vitality, and leaving us drained and weary. When exhaustion sets in, what steps do we take? The hunger for love and genuine living often differs from reality. The discipline to train our minds, bodies, and souls for growth seems overshadowed by the ceaseless chase for…
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Grief has become a great mentor since my father died nine months ago. The lessons, stories, and reflections have allowed me to reflect in greater detail about what I want my life to look like. I recently shared with my wife on the couch one night about how I envision life when I am a…
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During a coaching call this week with a potential new client, he arrived a few minutes late. He apologized, and we quickly got started. I asked a straightforward question to begin, aiming to cut right to the chase: “Where else are you showing up a few minutes late?” His response was direct: “Everywhere, and it’s…
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Three silent killers in your marriage and a script to use for building a passionate marriage tonight. 1) Hard conversations.2) Your desires.3) Listening. What to do instead. Use the following as a simple script. Say it with clarity. Own what you feel. Be calm. Then begin listening. 1) I would like to have a conversation…
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Attention busy married CEO. Don’t be ashamed to schedule sex with your spouse and the five benefits below. There are seasons in life when it is totally acceptable to initiate intimacy with your spouse by planning several days ahead. At the retreat, my wife and I just led this last weekend we had the couples…
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During a six-hour road trip through the panhandle of Texas headed for our home in McKinney, a major turning point in my marriage occurred. I looked over at my wife, Jessica, and acknowledged the tears streaming down her face. Our four girls, all under the age of six, were in the back seats of our…
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I am currently on a journey to focus my energies on reading more biographies because of an insight I had recently about one of my top five strengths on the StrengthsFinder. I am wired for Individualization according to StrengthsFinder, which means I am highly intrigued with the personal qualities of an individual and how to…
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It never ends. Stepping over toys. Stepping on toys. Asking them to clean up toys. How do you teach children (your team) to take care of their toys? This is my current strategy. “You have two choices. You can clean up what I have asked you to clean or you can leave them and lose…
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The intimate breakthrough you want with your wife is on the other side of the emotional glass ceiling. One of the emotional glass ceilings you may be facing is trying to care for and fix your spouse. You are not required to fix the problems of anyone. Including your spouse. The greatest gift you can…
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