For most of my life, I wrestled with the concept of boundaries. As a self-identified “nice guy,” I thought saying yes to everyone and meeting their needs would earn me respect, love, and success. But the truth is, nice guys don’t necessarily win. Instead, they end up exhausted, overcommitted, and disconnected. When you say yes…
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Nearly two decades ago, as I pursued my psychology degree with a focus on marriage therapy, one of the prerequisites for completing the program and starting my internship was attending a 12-step recovery meeting. I remember thinking, Why would I need to do this? My prideful, self-assured heart didn’t see the need. To me, those…
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I had major performance anxiety in our marriage and hidden anger that was stunting my growth and the greatness of our relationship. I see this in the men I serve: how performance anxiety and emotional numbness (anger) are robbing them of their full potential with their wives. How can you use anxiety and anger in…
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I had the privilege of hosting Brad Lomenick —a strategic advisor, author, and former leader of Catalyst—on this week’s podcast. Brad brought a wealth of wisdom about leadership, disciplines, and cultivating an ecosystem for community and growth. In our conversation, we explored: Brad’s insights offer practical tools and deep encouragement for leaders seeking clarity in…
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Do you dream of taking your marriage to the next level over the next ten years? I had the privilege of hosting Dr. Kim Kimberling from the Awesome Marriage podcast for a transformative conversation about growing together through the decades. We explored:✅ How to anticipate and navigate changes in marriage✅ The importance of intentionality and…
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Leadership Not by the Book by Bill High and Hobby Lobby CEO and Founder David Green is a paradigm-shifting book. It shifted the way I saw stewardship and a legacy mindset. “Doing your job wholeheartedly, as to the Lord, is most often the first step to greater responsibility and larger influence.” Bill High I was…
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We’ve hugged every day for 5 years. Minimum 20 seconds. This simple practice has transformed our marriage—10x the connection. The foundation of any healthy, dynamic relationship? Trust and safety. And hugging, especially a daily 20-second hug, creates both. Studies show the benefits of hugging include: A common challenge in relationships is differentiation—the ability to maintain…
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As I step into 2025, my goals are anchored in a simple but powerful framework rooted in the Gospel. Each year, I choose a character trait from the Fruit of the Spirit in Galatians 5 to guide my focus. This year, the word is self-control. My desire is to align my behaviors and actions with this…
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If you can’t keep a simple promise to yourself—like setting an alarm and getting up when you said you would—how can you expect to achieve your bigger goals? While this might sound overly simplistic, it’s a reality I’ve seen unfold repeatedly in coaching hundreds of leaders this year alone. The greatest danger leaders face isn’t…
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Recently on the Whole Hearted Leadership podcast, I was joined by Steve Graves, CEO Coach to have a conversation about building a coaching practice and explore one reason why leaders are over-indexed to be great at everything versus realizing that if you are a B+ leader in every area of your life you are living…
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Sean Kouplen, Founder and CEO of Regent Bank joins Lantz Howard on the Whole Hearted Leader podcast to share about how to chase your dreams. Lantz and Sean Kouplen, the Founder and CEO of Regent Bank, shared personal experiences and discussed their professional journeys, with a focus on Regent Bank’s growth and the faith at…
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