Here’s the truth: most high achievers won’t admit.

Revenue is up. Your team respects you. Clients love you.

But at home? Your wife feels cold. Sex is rare. Conversations are kids’ logistics. And honestly? It’s easier to stay at the office than go home. You’re making million-dollar decisions with a divided heart. You’ve lost your edge and are gaining weight. And it’s costing you everything.

I Almost Lost It All Building My Career

The real story…

I’ll never forget standing in the kitchen, surrounded by my beautiful wife and four young daughters, thinking:

“How can life look this good—yet feel so lonely?”

I had climbed the ladder—executive leader, all the right training. All the external success markers I wanted.

But inside? I was running on empty.

Our conversations were logistics. I had become a high-functioning, well-respected… stranger in my own home.

That moment started a decade-long journey to rebuild my life from the inside out.

– I learned how to stop performing for approval.
– Move from a transaction-based relationship.
– Embraced my power for intimacy to knock her socks off.
-Lead my wife instead of settling for mediocrity.
-Integrate my faith, my marriage, and my work into one integrated life.

I did not need another business strategy. I needed a soul reset.

And once I did that work? Everything changed.

Now I help business owners, CEO’s and high-capacity entrepreneurs do the same—men who look successful on the outside but are quietly disconnected on the inside.

What Happens if Nothing Changes

Let me paint you a picture of your future if you keep going like this:

In Five to Ten Years

You’ll be more successful and more alone.

Your wife will have emotionally checked out (if she hasn’t already).

Your kids will be strangers who tolerate you but don’t really know you.

Sex will be a distant memory or a source of resentment.

You’ll look at other couples and wonder what they have that you don’t.

Your lack of discipline will take over and you’ll be more overweight and tired than ever before.

Beyond five years she will be thinking about divorce (70% of women file) then paying alimoney, seeing kids every other weekend.

Or worse – you’ll be married but completely numb to each other.

You’ll have money and no meaning and your legacy will be lost.

Here’s What Most Men Don’t Realize Until It’s Too Late:

Your wife doesn’t need you to make more money. She needs you to come home present, not half-hearted. Your kids don’t need another extravagant vacation or endless travel sports. They need a dad who isn’t emotionally checked out at dinner.

And your soul? It doesn’t need another goal. You need to hear the voice of God.

Beyond Therapy. This is Training.

The Marriage Performance System

This isn’t a bro weekened or a marriage conference where nothing changes.
This is a proven system that helps high-performing men transform their marriage from the inside out–and transforms your leadership, business, and impact.

Phase 1: Tell the Truth

Identify the exact pattern destroying intimacy

Most men don’t have a marriage problem. They have an identity problem. You’ve been performing for approval so long, you’ve forgotten how to be present.

We’ll uncover: – The specific lies you believe about yourself, your wife, and your worth.
– The performance-based patterns are keeping you stuck.
– Why you walk on eggshells (and how to stop).
– The real reason sex feels like another task on your to-do list.

You will take the High Performance Marriage Scorecard and get clear on where you’re winning and where you’re bleeding out.

Get Your Marriage Scorecard

Phase 2: Renew the Mind

Replace performance-based relating with presence-based connection.

This is where the real work happens. You’ll learn: – How to lead your wife without controlling her.
– The counterintuitive truth about initiating intimacy (it’s not what you think).
-How to have hard conversations without being the ‘nice guy’ or macho jerk.
– How to hear God’s voice clearly again.
– The daily practices that create emotional and physical intimacy.

Tactical tools you’ll master.
– The 90 Second Reset (stops conflict before it escalates).
– The Presence Protocol (shows up fully in 5 minutes or less.
– The Identity Anchor (grounds you when fear takes over)
– The Intimacy Invitation (creates connection without pressure).

Get Your Marriage Scorecard

Phase 3: Live Transformed

Transfer these principles to leadership, parenting, and business.

Once you fix the foundation, everything else upgrades:
– Your team feels the difference in your leadership.
– Your decisions become clearer because you’re not carrying the weight of a broken marriage.
– Your kids see a dad who’s present, not just providing.
– Your business grows because you’re your no longer divided.

This isn’t just about saving your marriage. It’s about becoming the wholehearted man God created you to be.

Get Your Marriage Scorecard

Real Relationship Coaching for Faith-Driven Business Owners

WHAT MY CLIENTS SAY

“I needed someone to talk to about leading my wife in this next season of marriage and intimacy and health goals. The accountability was what I needed.”

Seth Buechley

CEO Telecom Consultant

“His guidance keeps me grounded in my God-given identity, focused on building healthy team, and having a dynamic marriage.’

Billy Blackburn

Owner Blackburn HVAC and Plumbing

“I was having a hard time connecting all the dots together about physical, emotional, spiritual and leadership health. He did not let me set and coast. He empowered me to walk fully with God.”

David Hamel

Chick-fil-A Owner / Operator

As a former MLB pitcher for the Texas Rangers… Lantz isn’t the general manager of the team. He isn’t even the coach. He is ON THE TEAM with you. Put Lantz on your team and let him lead you.’

Shawn Tolleson

Co-Founder POP Athletics

Lantz helped me clarify my goals, get alignment on my schedule, and redeem valuable time with my family. I highly recommend working with Lantz in your personal and professional life.

Dr. Josh McSpadden

Mangaging Partner

“The ability to connect on personal and business development has helped me see life’s integration. I have more intentionality, purpose, and goals with clear accountability. During our time together, store revenue has grown significantly.”

Hunter Clinton

Chick-fil-A Owner / Operator

“By becoming a man of my word, I’ve experienced greater connection with my wife, and now I’m excited to step into the next level of our marriage.”

Wade Denton

Commercial Pilot

“I was able to gain the confidence I needed to step away from a lucrative corporate job and regain my health. There is a night day difference with my kids and the involvement I now have with my family.”

Gordon Hutchinson

Coach and COO

What Happens in 90 Days

From roommates to lovers. From divided to whole.

TELL THE TRUTH

Days 1-30, you will take the marriage deep dive, identify your performance patterns, and uncover the lies keeping you stuck.

RENEW THE MIND

Days 31-60, you will master the Presence Protocol, Learn the Intimacy Invitation, and Repair Conflict Method

LIVE TRANSFORMED

Days 61-90, intimacy becomes the new standard, your wife opens up, and your leadership at work transforms.

IS YOUR MARRIAGE COSTING YOU PERFORMANCE?

Check All That Apply

You avoid going home because it’s easier at the office

Sex feels like another task on the list (if it happens at all)

Your wife respect has been replaced by resentment or silence.

You’re making million dollar decisions with a divided heart

You’ve read the books tried the date night–nothing really changes.

You walk on eggshells trying to keep the peace

You can’t remember the last time you really felt connected to your wife.

You’ve built a kingdom, but lost your queen.

How To Work With Me

If you checked three or more boxes above, you need this.

Step 1: Take the Free High Performance Marriage Scorecard

You’ll get a personalized scorecard showing you exactly where your marriage is strong and where you need to focus.

Get Your Marriage Scorecard

Step 2: Join the Free Unlock Intimacy by Friday Challenge

In 7 days you’ll learn how to stop walking on eggshells, #1 thing killing intimacy, how to initiate when life is busy, and daily practices that create emotional safety.

Get the Free Unlock Intimacy Challenge

Step 3: Join the Marriage Performance Lab

This is a monthly membership for business owners who refuse to settle in their marriage and want to stay on mission.
– 2x Per Month Live Group Coaching with Me
– Monthly Intimacy Pathway Challenges
– Weekly “Pause Coaching” to reset your week
– Monthly Creative Date Night Plans (so you can stop winging it)
– Identity alignment practices rooted in Scripture
– Exclusive Asynchronous Coaching Access
– Priority invitation to masterminds and couples adventures

Join the Lab for $347 Per Month

Step 4: Apply for 1:1 Intensive Coaching

Limited availability | I only take 3-4 new clients or couples per month. This is for men and or their wife who want deep clarity and confidence. We will work together for 6-12 months in 90-day intervals. The goal is transformation in 90 days to completely repair, restore, and build the life, marriage, and business you desire.

This is for you if you are ready to invest $5000-$10000 to get started.
– You’re serious about deep work.
– You want direct bespoke plans tailored to your VIP lifestyle
– You don’t want a quick fix, you want transformation.

Apply for 1:1 Bespoke Coaching

TURN DECADES INTO DAYS with PROFESSIONAL WISDOM

As the host of the Whole Hearted Leadership, Lantz has spent hundreds of hours learning from leadership experts, CEO’s, and professional athletes in the field of spiritual formation, marriage, and business.

You can learn from legends like John Delony, Henry Cloud, John Eldredge, Patrick Lencioni, Garrett Unclebach, Greg Massey, and Brent Beshore.

Working with Lantz means that he will transfer their wisdom into every coaching conversation.

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The World Doesn’t Need More Successful Men. It Needs Wholehearted Ones.

Here’s what I know after 20 years of marriage and a decade of coaching high performers.
Your wife doesn’t need you to be perfect. She needs you to be present.

Your kids don’t need you to provide more. They need you to show up more.

Your team doesn’t need another strategy session. They need a leader who’s grounded, not divided.

And your soul doesn’t need another goal. It needs to receive your true identity.

You can keep grinding. Keep performing. Keep building your little kingdom while you lose the very relationship you once loved most.

Or you can do the hard work, holy work of becoming whole, connected, and resilient.

The choice is yours.

But here is what I promise:

When you do this work–when you tell the truth, renew your mind, and live from the inside out–everything changes.

Your wife starts to soften again. Your presence calms the room instead of creating anxiety. You rediscover play, laughter, and joy. You lead with peace, not pressure.